Comments on: let’s just feed them, shall we? http://www.harpershappenings.com/2010/04/05/lets-just-feed-them-shall-we/ ...and some of mine, too. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 23:55:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: JC http://www.harpershappenings.com/2010/04/05/lets-just-feed-them-shall-we/#comment-21755 JC Fri, 02 Dec 2011 03:15:00 +0000 http://www.harpershappenings.com/?p=1555#comment-21755 I also realize this is an old post, but thanks for it!  I had mastitis, clogged ducts, cracked, bleeding nipples with my first baby.  I switched to pumping to save my sanity and made it 3 months.  I just assumed with everything I knew that it would be better with my second and I would conquer breastfeeding.  But when my milk came in all the same problems came back—only worse!  I couldn't believe it.  And the second time around I got almost nothing from pumping.  (And I had lactation consultants too.)  I threw in the towel at one week. If the baby isn't getting the milk out, and the pump isn't getting it out, what do you do next?  I continued to try pumping for several weeks, always with the same result—almost nothing.  I agree about not judging when you see a bottle-feeding mom.  And I agree about bonding.  I think I bonded better with my second baby because I wasn't stressing constantly and pumping constantly.  And with a 3 and half year old and a 14 month old, they have had ONE ear infection between them.  And I know several breastfeeding moms whose kids have tubes in their ears.  So the "formula-fed babies aren't as healthy" stereotype is just that—a stereotype! I also realize this is an old post, but thanks for it!  I had mastitis, clogged ducts, cracked, bleeding nipples with my first baby.  I switched to pumping to save my sanity and made it 3 months.  I just assumed with everything I knew that it would be better with my second and I would conquer breastfeeding.  But when my milk came in all the same problems came back—only worse!  I couldn’t believe it.  And the second time around I got almost nothing from pumping.  (And I had lactation consultants too.)  I threw in the towel at one week. If the baby isn’t getting the milk out, and the pump isn’t getting it out, what do you do next?  I continued to try pumping for several weeks, always with the same result—almost nothing.  I agree about not judging when you see a bottle-feeding mom.  And I agree about bonding.  I think I bonded better with my second baby because I wasn’t stressing constantly and pumping constantly.  And with a 3 and half year old and a 14 month old, they have had ONE ear infection between them.  And I know several breastfeeding moms whose kids have tubes in their ears.  So the “formula-fed babies aren’t as healthy” stereotype is just that—a stereotype!

]]> By: Vulnerable http://www.harpershappenings.com/2010/04/05/lets-just-feed-them-shall-we/#comment-19978 Vulnerable Sun, 18 Sep 2011 15:21:00 +0000 http://www.harpershappenings.com/?p=1555#comment-19978 I remember the day when I went into Safeways and was looking at the different formulas, trying to figure out which one to get.  I had just spent 3 days in the hospital.  Why? from trying to breastfeed but baby getting nothing had given her jaundice, an infection, and dehydration.  And they brought the expert from the capital to tell me that I had no mammary tissue and couldn't feed her.  I was fragile, I was hurting, and a lady came up and told me I should love my baby enough to breastfeed her, none of the formula was a good choice.  I ran to the car and let my husband get the formula from Target.  I dare her to approach me every time I pick up formula now, though I've never seen her again, I couldn't handle her then, but now?  Wow.  Let people just feed their kids.  Even if they don't know all the pros and cons, it's no one's business but their own and their baby is not going to die from a different choice.  And you don't know what pain is there. I remember the day when I went into Safeways and was looking at the different formulas, trying to figure out which one to get.  I had just spent 3 days in the hospital.  Why? from trying to breastfeed but baby getting nothing had given her jaundice, an infection, and dehydration.  And they brought the expert from the capital to tell me that I had no mammary tissue and couldn’t feed her.  I was fragile, I was hurting, and a lady came up and told me I should love my baby enough to breastfeed her, none of the formula was a good choice.  I ran to the car and let my husband get the formula from Target.  I dare her to approach me every time I pick up formula now, though I’ve never seen her again, I couldn’t handle her then, but now?  Wow. 

Let people just feed their kids.  Even if they don’t know all the pros and cons, it’s no one’s business but their own and their baby is not going to die from a different choice.  And you don’t know what pain is there.

]]> By: Esther http://www.harpershappenings.com/2010/04/05/lets-just-feed-them-shall-we/#comment-19977 Esther Sun, 18 Sep 2011 06:55:00 +0000 http://www.harpershappenings.com/?p=1555#comment-19977 Wow...self-absorbed much?  I hope your firstborn doesn't stumble upon your comments, lest this whole inferior bonding nonsense you're alluding to becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.  How do you know your firstborn wouldn't have had a different relationship with you no matter what?  You don't, so please stop slamming your child just to make yourself seem more important.  Statements like yours don't show respect.  They show patronizing sanctimoniousness, and I'm surprised no one has called you on it prior to now. Wow…self-absorbed much?  I hope your firstborn doesn’t stumble upon your comments, lest this whole inferior bonding nonsense you’re alluding to becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.  How do you know your firstborn wouldn’t have had a different relationship with you no matter what?  You don’t, so please stop slamming your child just to make yourself seem more important.  Statements like yours don’t show respect.  They show patronizing sanctimoniousness, and I’m surprised no one has called you on it prior to now.

]]> By: Pamelaschut http://www.harpershappenings.com/2010/04/05/lets-just-feed-them-shall-we/#comment-19262 Pamelaschut Fri, 05 Aug 2011 19:19:00 +0000 http://www.harpershappenings.com/?p=1555#comment-19262 Thank you!!! Thank you for writing my story. Though I never hid the formula. I walked around waiting for a fight. Waiting to justify why my child drank from a bottle of powered milk. Yet I walked around with a heavy guilt cape. I shared this on my Facebook and a male friend of mine read it and said thank you for opening his eyes as he had no idea and felt bad for preaching all breast. So thank you for making me know I'm not alone and for helping me open the eyes of others. Thank you!!! Thank you for writing my story. Though I never hid the formula. I walked around waiting for a fight. Waiting to justify why my child drank from a bottle of powered milk. Yet I walked around with a heavy guilt cape. I shared this on my Facebook and a male friend of mine read it and said thank you for opening his eyes as he had no idea and felt bad for preaching all breast. So thank you for making me know I’m not alone and for helping me open the eyes of others.

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