me time.

Posted on | August 31, 2010 | 33 Comments

i love my daughter. she is the best thing that has ever happened to me and being able to spend every day with her is a privilege and a job i truly adore. i wouldn’t trade it for anything.

but let’s be real. she’s almost two. she? can be a handful.

my days are full of negotiations. tantrums. saying things i never thought i’d hear myself say (“if you put your hand in the toilet one more time, you’re gonna get a time out. do you understand me?”). i clean food and food products from her parts, my parts and my kitchen’s parts countless times a day. i carry a small human up and down stairs, pull that small human off of furniture and remove improper things from said human’s mouth (the other day? a penny. A PENNY. we don’t even use pennies. i’ve been known to throw them in the trash. i mean…what?). i’m always “on”.

ever since H began really sleeping though the night (at about 5 months if memory serves me correct. and it doesn’t, but this blog does), i have regressed to my night owl ways. i know, it’s not the smartest idea to stay up late when i answer to a tiny boss, but the silence? the sitting? the letting my muscles un-tense? the eating of food product in peace or drinking a cup of tea in it’s entirety before it gets cold? i cannot pass it up.

most nights, after my two loves have gone to sleep, i sit. and i do whatever i want. usually that consists of watching amazingly bad television on DVR, popping popcorn, cuddling with a pug and blogging. sometimes there is tea. most times there is wine. perhaps i should be doing that dish, plucking my eyebrows, painting my toenails or balancing the checkbook (ha. haha. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA), but instead, i sit.

and it’s glorious, people. glorious.

Category: blogging, confessions, extreme happiness, funny mom stuff, nugget, the haps

Comments

  • http://thescohis.blogspot.com Megyn

    First of all, your puppies make my day. Seriously so jealous.

    And I totally understand about the "me" time. Now with #2, I'm sorely lacking my 2 hours nightly. Enjoy and NEVER feel guilty for it!

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  • emily bilbrey

    YAY for me-time! no shame in that, mama. pretty sure most any of us would agree it's something to be cherished. i sometimes have to force myself to back away from work stuff (the plight of working from home – it's there STARING YOU IN THE FACE, JUST MOCKING YOU FOR BEING LAZY AAAHHHH!) *ahem* and just take the spare moments to relax and tune out. if you're "on" all the time it's easy to get super wired and that's not good for you or the kiddo. oh and yeah on the toilet stuff – p goes for the icky cleaner brush every. single. time. yay toddlers?

    enjoy your quiet nights, dear!

    cheers!

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  • http://www.howdyhoosier.com Melissa

    Amazingly bad TV on the DVR seconded! The roles are reversed right now, a bit – husband is a student and is granted the luxury of being able to stay up a little later than me, but Friday and Saturday night's I'll down like four Diet Cokes in an attempt to stay up until 2am doing all kinds of fun stuff! *makes plans to buy a bottle of wine on the way home tonight!*

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  • http://alihendricks006.blogspot.com Ali

    I love the picture & I LOVE the new design!

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  • orangemomonani

    I do this too, every night i get at least 2 hours to myself before I pass out. We all need me time no matter how we can get it.

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  • http://theheirtoblair.com Blair@HeirtoBlair

    zero shame in it.

    & I do it, too. After a long day at the office, fighting traffic for two hours, then being momma & then wife, I just need to zone out. Most of the time it's with the blog, or a cup of tea & trashy romance novel in bed.

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  • http://charminglychandler.com Alena

    I do it, and every morning when I wake up to Sophia making noise in her room I regret staying up. I am a night person by design, not a morning person. And to just sit…it's glorious!

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  • Danielle

    i thought i was the only one who threw pennies away! my boyfriend thinks i'm nuts, but honestly i think they are gross. ha.

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  • newmomadventure

    I love bad DVR tv. Lately I have been tempted to kick hubby out of house for some me time. Sometimes it is such a zoo. Normally I lock myself in the bedroom with the fur baby. I should add tea to my routine. A hot cup of tea sounds divine.

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  • http://www.littlebabybateman.blogspot.com Desi

    its nap time right now and there are a million different things I should be doing…but I am currently enjoying a cup of coffee because my other 2 were never finished due to a 1 year old demon that we keep in the house :)

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  • http://www.mamamayiwrites.com Katie

    Oh yes, the quiet time. And sitting. Wine and tea. Finally turning it "off". Glorious.

    Love your blog. I've been reading for a few weeks now and really enjoy it.

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  • http://www.lookatthebirds.com t.bird

    me time…i wish i could find me some of that. ::sigh::

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  • http://www.blinkblots.com Lichen

    DVR, wine, popcorn, quiet unfettered time sinking into a world of Entourage or Madmen while my baby turns 2 in her sleep.-I'm right therewith you, your East Coast mirror staying up way too late

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  • Laura

    Cute pic! It relaxed me just lookin' at it!

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  • http://toniandryan.blogspot.com Toni

    I wish I could stay up late enough for me time! Usually I watch about an hour of TV with my husband, then I'm off to bed. But I think you're on to something here : )

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  • http://arms-wide-open.squarespace.com armsopengrace

    so important. i've never been a night owl, but i hear ya on needing the alone time. lately S has been sleeping later so i get a little bit in the a.m.'s!

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  • http://page611.blogspot.com Mary

    Oh I am so looking forward to “me time”. I guess I have to wait till Miss L starts sleeping through the night. She’s 10 months old.
    Mary´s last [type] ..Wordless Wednesday- In a desperate need of air

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  • http://themomdiggity.com kk

    me time is the best. I get mine on Wednesday nights when hubby takes munchkin out for a daddy date night. since he's the night owl in our family, I always go to bed before him and i LOVE a couple hours of a quiet house. but naturally, after about 20 minutes I miss them :)

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  • heart, meet sleeve

    We all need me time! On the hard days Im just counting down the minutes to Lucy's bed time so I can veg on the couch and just BE. Oh and eat all the foods I don't want Lucy to eat ;)

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  • Erin C.

    I do the same exact thing. I love being able to eat without someone giving me a "I want a bite" look. (yes, at 10 months, my son has mastered that look) and the peace and quiet … ::sigh::: … nothing like it!

    oh, and our babies share the same birthday :)

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  • alishayarbrough

    that sitting is how come harper has a mostly sane happy mommy. up with sitting!!!

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  • http://www.classicivory.com Lindsey@ClassicIvory

    During those first couple of weeks I always thought that as soon as she started sleeping through the night I would jump into bed the moment she was in her crib. But now that I am out of that newborn haze I find myself quietly sneaking downstairs once the family is asleep. I read blogs, snack, drink, watch mindless tv…an hour to myself is so wonderful no matter what I am doing.

    PS: your toes are pretty…I need a pedicure!

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  • http://www.stefibeth.blogspot.com Stephanie

    *Sigh* I love me time. I just had some me time earlier this evening. My 6 month old DS is teething and we had a particularly trying day. Daddy took over baby-duty for an hour so that I could go relax in my comfy reading chair with a book. Heaven!

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  • jess; [the bottle chronicles]

    That's why I stay up late too…cause I need that destress, unwinding time. Me time. Oh how I love it!

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  • http://www.misselaineouslife.com Elaine

    Oh girl. You are singin' my song!!! I love the quiet time at night. It's part of the reason I make it through every day. :-)

    p.s. totally forgot about the tea I made (in the microwave no less) until you just reminded me. *facepalm*

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  • http://www.AprilsLittleFamily.com MommyNamedApril

    the evening is all mine around here too. my kids go to bed by seven because my sanity depends on it.

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  • http://www.theschenksshinanigans.blogspot.com amy

    me time is the bomb dot com! i always stay up later than i should, do "me" things. which sometimes to just sit and listen to the silence. it is wondraful.

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  • http://notacouponqueen.wordpress.com Maureen

    you are a better mom and wife for it! I don't always get time each night to recharge, but Saturday is "Daddy Day" at our house. I get to sleep with ear plugs, he takes the baby monitor and gets up with the kid in the morning. they go shopping, for walks, and I get to sleep in and shower and basically do whatever I want till lunch time! It's marvelous!
    Good on you for realizing that you need this time. It's so nice to finally be "off".

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  • http://pearlsandgreentea.blogspot.com j.lee

    Hi! I agree completely. I'm exhausted all day with my 19 month old daughter but somehow, as soon as she goes to bed, I'm full of energy to watch my trashy reality shows and pour myself a glass of wine or blog-stalk all night. :) I also have a fawn pug!
    http://pearlsandgreentea.blogspot.com/

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  • conceivedandcomposed

    good grief! 5 mo's! this means i've still got 3.5 more months to go!!!

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  • http://www.mybottlesup.com nic @mybottlesup

    WORD.

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  • http://www.unlikelymama.net Amber

    I need at least 2 hours of alone time with my computer on my lap to feel rested! That means that if Alexa has a particularly crappy sleep night and goes down late…then I'm up far far far too late. Yeah, I pay for it the next day, but at least I can nap with her if I choose to :-)

    BTW, my ass is stuck in the couch the whole time :P

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